tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424131704277823220.post9084741794609532204..comments2023-09-23T11:16:00.352+02:00Comments on The Franco-American Flophouse has moved: Cross-Cultural Relationships, Literature and LoveVictoria FERAUGEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16319699673885400472noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424131704277823220.post-40335255454173732492014-11-01T22:10:29.321+01:002014-11-01T22:10:29.321+01:00@Ellen, Read Passion Fruit as I would love to get...@Ellen, Read Passion Fruit as I would love to get your take on it. Montreal was great - not too cold. I got a tour of UdeM from my daughter. On the plane over I met a lovely woman, a professor at UdeM and we merrily chatted for several hours. Trip back was fine but the jet-lag was horrible. And I leave tomorrow for Osaka where the jet-lag will be twice as awful.<br /><br />@Andrew, Merci!<br /><br />@Donna, Oh yeah! I call this the "home court advantage". :-) We did the Third Place (japan) 7 years ago and it was, well, interesting. And here we are about to do it again. I meet a fair number of couples in Paris (Brits, Americans, Canadians and the like) and I haven't seen what I think I saw (and lived) in Asia. What was/is the difference? Anyone have any insight into this?Victoria FERAUGEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16319699673885400472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424131704277823220.post-85952357064952556842014-11-01T21:57:55.961+01:002014-11-01T21:57:55.961+01:00@anonymous coward:
I wish you happiness in your lo...@anonymous coward:<br />I wish you happiness in your loneliness.<br /><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07968342557143521132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424131704277823220.post-57909457123737293912014-11-01T16:24:26.262+01:002014-11-01T16:24:26.262+01:00Victoria, thank you for another excellent, thought...Victoria, thank you for another excellent, thought-provoking post. I shall add Ms. Cherryh's books to my list!<br />What has struck me during the last 21 years in our multi-cultural marriage is that it's actually a threesome, with the native country as an antagonist: in the UK, it was me against my husband and his country; now in the US, my husband has felt the sting and it has been him against me and the US. Whoever holds the native land's instruction book is the "winner"; and yes, the moments of misunderstanding, fear and loathing, though rare, can still come without warning.<br />That is why I'm interested in what will happen when a couple moves to a third, "neutral" country. Will the threesome be the couple bonding against the new country? Will there be some complex projections happening, where I imagine the country's on my side, and he imagines that it's on his side, and thus the same me vs. them mentality comes up again? I sincerely hope not--but when we go back to Europe in January, it will be an experience to watch all the same. <br />Happy landings in Osaka!<br /><br />Donnanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424131704277823220.post-18940930412651456912014-11-01T13:32:27.589+01:002014-11-01T13:32:27.589+01:00Nice and interesting take.Nice and interesting take.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2424131704277823220.post-70204586980793900312014-10-31T13:55:29.698+01:002014-10-31T13:55:29.698+01:00I just can't keep up with your reading list. I...I just can't keep up with your reading list. It's all so interesting, but I'm being lazy and satisfying myself with reading your take.<br />How was the trip to Montreal?Ellen Lebellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01929639076042070115noreply@blogger.com